We have to start off by saying that we unequivocally recommend breast milk. As they say, "human milk for human babies"- it just makes sense. If a mama's own milk isn't available, donor milk from another mama is the very next best thing, and yes it's better than formula. The debate in the lactation consultant world tends to be over "informal" versus "formal" milk sharing. Formal being through an official milk bank (which blends, pasteurizes, and homogenizes... making breast milk prohibitively expensive and turning women's efforts into big business profits).
Informal milk sharing is everything else.
It's manually expressing colostrum for a friend's toddler who keeps getting sick in daycare. It's giving half of your frozen pumped stash to a mom who is going back to work and doesn't have milk saved. It's food for babies who can't tolerate artificial formula but never latched on to their mother's breast. It's cross-nursing and wet-nursing, and yes, both of those things really happen!
Informal milk sharing has some risks, and moms should be and are generally aware of them. An improper donor could pass along a disease, could have incorrectly stored the milk, or could be taking drugs. All of these reasons are why milk sharing communities widely discourage purchasing breast milk. Freely giving milk is a time consuming process, and is a labor of love. The World Health Organization recommends milk from a "healthy donor", yet some lactation consultants will universally discourage milk sharing unless the mothers are participating in the formal milk bank system because of those (admittedly rare) risks.
Mamas who have hundreds and thousands of bags of milk frozen may be pumping like crazy because they are suffering with an oversupply problem. They are at risk of mastitis and plugged ducts if they were to suddenly stop pumping, and may not know how to get out of this situation. Or they might not be feeding their milk to their own baby because he or she has symptoms of intestinal distress and their pediatrician or GI specialist has advised them to stop nursing and switch to a specialty formula. These women need support.
Mamas who are supplementing with donor milk may have a baby who never latched. Or they struggled with low milk supply. Or they are returning to work and don't have the appropriate tools and support in place to provide milk for their baby.
All of those things can be compounded by the continuation of the milk sharing cycle, because supplementing with breastmilk is still supplementing and still reduces supply. It can throw the whole system out of balance. The best thing women can do when they are milk sharing is to contact a lactation professional and talk over whatever concerns they might be having. And if the lactation professional gives them a lecture about the dangers of milk sharing instead of lending an ear and offering real support, we hope they have the courage to pick up the phone one more time and call someone else.
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3 comments:
I wholeheartedly agree with your concerns. I've had two mothers post to Facebook wanting donor milk, but not wanting to find out what the problem was that was causing short supply. Donor milk is amazing, but it shouldn't be the bandaid on the problem.
Exactly!
Often times the milk shared is truly needed in that moment (babies *have* to eat, first and foremost), but that isn't the end of the road.
Well said!
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